Learning how to barbecue

I love to eat barbecue but I do I not know how to grill/cook. As a tradition in my fathers household boys were never allowed into the kitchen. My task as a son was to ensure that there was firewood in the house and to clean after my mother cooked. Further more I spent almost my entire teenage years in a boys boarding home from elementary to high school where food was prepared by the school's chef.  Over the years I never learned how to cook or prepare meals as my wife is a good cook. Having gatherings today at the house, I  rely on my brother-in-law who is a good chef to prepare my barbecues which I and the kids like very much. I recently decided that I should learn  how to prepare a barbecue and even learn how to make our native dishes which I sometimes miss. After some practices I made my first barbecue on super bowl Sunday.